Researchers have learned a lot about autism over the past 20 years, and the definition has grown to include more. Autism, also called Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), has a wide range of signs and experiences. This does not mean there are more people with autism. It means we are better at finding and diagnosing it.
People with autism may see and understand the world in different ways. Some may even communicate differently than others. This does not mean they do not want friends or conversation. It simply means they may communicate in their own way.
When people communicate differently, misunderstandings can happen. This does not mean someone does not care or is not trying.
Here are three tips that can help make conversations with people with autism clearer and more comfortable.
Be Clear
Many people with autism understand words exactly as they are said. Jokes, hints or sarcasm may be confusing.
Try to say what you mean in a clear and direct way. It can also help to explain what you want to talk about at the start of the conversation.
You may be asked to repeat yourself. This often helps people with autism understand and think about what is said. If repeating does not help, try saying it in a different way.
Clear words can help prevent confusion and make conversations easier for everyone.
Take Time
Some people with autism need more time to think and respond. Fast conversations can be hard to follow.
Speak slowly and pause between ideas and give time for answers. This helps conversations feel calm and respectful.
The same is true for activities. Slower activities can be more enjoyable and less stressful.
It can also help to say how long you have to talk. If you need to leave, let the person know you enjoyed talking with them before you go.
Get Engagement
Make space: In group conversations, invite people with autism to join in. Say hello, ask a question or bring up a topic they like. If they choose not to talk, that is okay. Giving the choice is what matters.
Ask about interests: Many people enjoy talking about their favorite things. Asking about hobbies or interests can lead to fun and meaningful conversations.
Think about the setting: Some places can feel overwhelming. Loud sounds, bright lights, crowds or strong smells can be stressful. When planning an outing, talk about what the place will be like ahead of time.
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